The funny thing about brains

The funny thing about brains is that they don't want you to know that you can control the way they think sometimes. They take you down a path you think you want to go, or that you think you have to go and you feel an emotion as a result. I don't know if you feel the emotion first and then it goes down this path or vice versa. If you saw the movie "What the Bleep Do we Know" you will remember the party scene where they talk about messages going along the neurotransmitter pathways that are already there (some made by a sad thought some time in the past) and that to retrain your brain and to build new pathways you have to consciously think new thoughts, sometimes in the form of affirmations, to change habits your brain might be in. Yes, your brain has a mind of its own. Or at least it is prepared to run on autopilot unless you consciously decide to do otherwise with it.

I believe this is where I find myself. I know this because I have dealt with this before, but the brain is very sneaky and allows you to forget that you can CHOOSE to think other things (it is lazy and doesn't want to work). Although I came up with this re-realization yesterday, my sister lovingly reminded me again this morning in her comment about not dwelling on the hole. I love what she said about looking in the hole from the top and saying later "What the hell was I doing down there?" So, be patient with people who are in their deep, dark holes, and lovingly remind them of all the positive things in their life and remind them they have options (the brain wants you to forget that as well sometimes). I have a note on my mirror that says "Always look on the bright side of life". I just have to remember that even though my brain wants me to forget there is a bright side, there is one there. I have to search hard for it sometimes, but it is worth the effort.

Everything is going to be alright.
Jimmy Eat World said it perfectly just for me yesterday and I quote him (or the group) here:

The Middle
Written by by Jimmy Eat World

Hey, don't write yourself off yet
It's only in your head
You feel left out or looked down on
Just try your best, try everything you can
And don't you worry what they tell themselves
When you're away

It just takes some time, little girl
You're in the middle of the ride
Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be all right, all right

Hey, you know they're all the same
You know you're doing better on your own
So don't buy in, live right now
Yeah, just be yourself
It doesn't matter if that's good enough for someone else

It just takes some time, little girl
You're in the middle of the ride
Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be all right, all right

It just takes some time, little girl
You're in the middle of the ride
Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be all right, all right

Hey, don't write yourself off yet
It's only in your head
You feel left out or looked down on
Just do your best, do everything you can
And don't you worry what the bitter hearts are gonna say

It just takes some time, little girl
You're in the middle of the ride
Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be all right, all right

It just takes some time, little girl
You're in the middle of the ride
Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be all right, all right

This is not my video, so you don't have to leave me a message letting me know what you think about the song like it says on the screen. This is just so you can hear it. I didn't want to use the MTV video as it has people dancing around in their underwear.